Lesson #4 – Gift of Giving
In Lesson #3 we learned about the motivational gift of FACILITATION. The most predominant trait of these children is that they tend to be head strong, and at times, a wee bit rebellious.
We learned that those with the motivational gift of facilitation are generally visionaries. They love to make lots of friends so they will have plenty of people to call on to do their bidding when it comes to accomplishing tasks—these are delegators!
We learned that there are some wonderful traits that children with this gift have:
1. Of the 7 motivational gifts, the gift of facilitation is relatively easy to determine. They can be quite head-strong.
2. These children tend to be rebellious, primarily because their gift motivates them to get things done.
3. They are visionaries and offer leadership support.
4. When they are inspired to do something they just do it.
5. These little kiddies are not afraid to tackle projects even at an early age.
6. Helping them develop their gift can be fun for the entire family.
In This Lesson…
In this lesson we are going to learn more about the motivational gift of GIVING.
The gift of giving is one of compassion. These are the children who will be involved in every club in school. They will often give their own toys or clothes away to someone they know may need them. If you discover that winter scarf Sally received for Christmas is missing, you may find it around the neck of Joannie. They see a need and want to meet it. These kiddos are extremely receptive and friendly. When you take them shopping watch to see how they inspect the items they are shopping for. These little ones are frugal and want value for their nickels and dimes, especially as they get older. And they are very supportive of their close friends.
Purpose of the Gift of Giving
Romans 12:8 – The gift of giving is provided to meet the various needs of people who do not have the means to provide fully for themselves, no matter the reason. Givers can be ministries, organizations, the church body, as well as individuals. The goal is to give encouragement and meet practical needs to express God’s love. Luke 12:27-28 Consider the lilies how they grow: they toil not, … If then God so clothe the grass, which is today in the field, and tomorrow is cast into the oven; how much more will he clothe you, O ye of little faith? God places greater value on humanity than the lilies. Helping to meet the material needs of others is the purpose of this beautiful gift, although the responsibility of all. It appears to be a gift to some whom the Lord enables to give cheerfully and uses to help others to let them know they are noticed by God, not forgotten in their distress.
The Greek word for the spiritual gift of giving is Metadidomi. It simply means “to impart” or “to give.” However, this word is accompanied in Romans 12:8 by another descriptive word: Haplotes. This word tells us much more about the kind of giving that is associated with this gift. The word Haplotes means “sincerely, generously, and without pretense or hypocrisy.” No strings attached; opposite from the give to get philosophy.
Children who operate with this beautiful gift extend the care and concern of God to others. They get immense joy from taking care of these needs but have an uncanny intuition about who to give to. They are very wise in their purchasing. They have a desire to give quietly to effective projects. Giving to others gives children boundless joy when their own giving is an answer to prayer. They have a desire to feel and become part of a supported cause. They are often looking for needs and spending their life on others. They are not too thrilled to receive but prefer to give. Many people who have been blessed financially by God give a great deal of their income to philanthropic endeavors. Givers not only give of their substance, they are committed to those they love and are very supportive of their friends, a strong trait of the giver.
Challenges With the Gift of Giving
I recall one of my friend’s children who was always counting money. Every time we were with them during his early years he had monopoly money spread out on the table. Family members labeled him as greedy and with a love for money. But this was his gift of giving trying to come out. He has become one of the most giving people I know as an adult. But first, he had to learn to be wise in his giving. The need to deal with large sums of money may appear to be a focus on wrong values and sometimes appear to be materialistic. This little one was always telling others what they should do with their money. The desire to increase the effectiveness of ministry by their gift may appear as an attempt to control the work of a person or organization they give to.
Their attempt to encourage others to give may appear as unnecessary or even controlling. Their personal frugality may appear to friends and relatives as selfishness in not meeting their needs. They evaluate the need vs. the want. They tend to measure spiritual success by material assets.
Pride can be a problem for the giver because of the amount they give once they grow up. They can become blind to spiritual needs and qualities, and to other areas of service. If others are not concerned with the giver’s interests, the giver can become discontent.
Development of the Gift of Giving
The gift of giving can be a dangerous gift if not developed. The scriptures tell us that the “love” of money is the “root” of all evil. “For the love of money is a source of all kinds of evil. Some have been so eager to have it that they have wandered away from the faith and have broken their hearts with many sorrows” 1Titus 6:10 (GNB) and, “Keep your lives free from the love of money, and be satisfied with what you have,” Hebrews 13:5 (GNB). Therefore, it is important to teach children with this gift the purpose of money.
Teach your child with this gift to be careful not to measure others’ spirituality by what they give. Realize that though God has called everyone to give, He has not called everyone to give as the one with the motivation to give does.
Teach your giver that it is not the size of the gift that is given, but the intent of the heart that is important to God. Give these little ones an allowance and teach them to tithe. Watch how they initially handle the money before instructing them.
Have them clean out their closets once a year and find someone or some organization to give the clothes to. Then take them to visit a homeless shelter and expose them to your city’s needs. Remember those with the gift of giving want to meet practical needs of others and are always looking for ways to do that.
Give them a project to do and then pay them so they will understand that the money they earn is not all for their personal use, that God has blessed them, so they can genuinely help others. They need to especially learn that they give without expectation of getting something in return. Giving is for the benefit of the one we give to.
Since givers are almost always leaders, help them develop leadership skills.