Lesson #3 – Gift of Facilitation

In Lesson #2 we learned about the motivational gift of EXHORTATION. Some of you may have already suspected that your children were encourages, however, the lesson most likely confirmed this to you.

We learned that those with the motivational gift of exhortation are generally high energy and happy children. They love to be the center of attention and they don’t mind getting up in front of others to perform or do book reports at school.

We learned that there are some wonderful traits that children with this gift have:

Exhorters do love to talk and are very people oriented
Others are naturally drawn to them because they are non-condemning
Exhorters usually excel in a lot of areas
These children are not very good at saving—anything!
They generally like dogs at an early age
They have a good imagination and can carry on conversations with make-believe characters

In This Lesson…

In this lesson we are going to learn more about the motivational gift of FACILITATION.

Of the 7 motivational gifts, the gift of facilitation is relatively easy to determine. These children tend to be rebellious, primarily because their gift motivates them to get things done. They are visionaries and offer leadership support. When they are inspired to do something they just do it. These little kiddies are not afraid to tackle projects even at an early age. Helping them develop their gift can be fun for the entire family.

Purpose of the Gift of Facilitation

Romans 12:8 – The purpose of the gift of facilitation is to offer support to leadership, but we must recognize that they are also leaders in their own right. They are known as administrative leaders and serve by leading people in a certain direction or for a certain cause. Facilitators show and point the way for others, like a shepherd leading sheep, when it comes to getting a task or project accomplished. They can inspire others to a common vision/mission and for a specific outcome.

Those who possess the gift of facilitator/administrator/leader are empowered to organize, direct, and implement plans to lead others in various ministries or projects. This gift is closely related to the ministry gift of leadership but is more goal or task oriented and is also more concerned with details and organization and is a serving gift.

The Greek word for the spiritual gift of administration is Kubernesis. This term refers to a shipmaster or captain. Its literal meaning is “to steer,” or “to rule or govern.” It carries the idea of someone who guides and directs a group of people toward a goal or destination. The person with the gift of a facilitator has the capacity and is motivated to serve by organizing, administering, promoting, and leading, whether it is a ministry inside the church or a ministry or organization outside of organized religion. It is a very necessary gift in business as well.

Challenges With the Gift of Facilitation

Welcome to the exciting and frustrating world of facilitators! While each gift carries its own set of challenges, there are probably more challenges that accompany this gifted one than the others due to their independent and strong-willed personality. Facilitator children may appear lazy and want to avoid work or they are always getting others to do what they should be doing. This is because they can delegate responsibility. They make the plans and get others to carry out the plans. As a child, they do not understand this character trait, so they simply don’t do the work.
The willingness to endure negative reaction from others may appear as callousness; that they don’t care. Quite the contrary. They have a built-in guard to criticism that does not profit. This can make it difficult to receive constructive criticism that nurtures their growth.

Since facilitators are prone to deep concentration they may at times snap at other children for distracting them while they are engrossed in certain activities. Their attention to putting details before their friends can create hard feelings.

Does your child have a tough time admitting to making mistakes? They are quick to blame-shifting when things go wrong. Your child’s goal is to accomplish a project quickly and efficiently. When successful, and they are honored for the success, they often do not share the glory with those that helped them.

Discouragement and frustration when goals are not met, or anger and mistreatment of those who disagree with their plans are a challenge for children with this gift. Facilitators can discern the various motivational gifts and who can perform certain tasks. Because of this they assume those they enlist in their tasks know what to do. This makes delegating easy, but they often don’t give proper instruction and support, rather they trust their helpers to just get the job done. Then mistakes occur.

Development of the Gift of Facilitation

How can children with the gift of facilitation use it? Parents can guide their children into developing this wonderful and necessary gift, especially in today’s American culture. Here are a few suggestions to consider. Remember these ideas are not inclusive and are simply suggestions.

Give them opportunities to plan and organize projects. Their Sunday school class projects, a birthday party, class outing, Easter egg hunt, Christmas party, a family outing, vacations, trips, etc. Any type of task you can give them will help them think through their natural abilities to plot and plan so that they can get a job done efficiently and successfully, even if on their own.

Help them understand how to plan that project. Remember facilitators are good at delegating but not so good at instructing. They need to learn how to guide those they ask to help them. Help them write out instructions for various tasks around the house such as: how to clean the refrigerator, how to mop the floor, how to clean their room, how to plan a party, etc. This will help them understand how to create instructions.
Help them organize some neighborhood drives for the needy: gathering cans of food, getting neighbors to clean out their closets and give to the needy (enlist a “giver” to help with this), collecting shoes for the homeless etc. And, let them have group events at your house and guide their behavior with others to develop their appreciation for those who help them as well as details and accomplishments.

Look for the pitfalls they may encounter by completing the task: not admitting a mistake, blaming someone else for it, becoming a bit too proud, taking praise for the work of others, etc. Since these children are very strong-willed and tend to be rebellious, it is important to teach them to respect authority and to honor others who help them accomplish a task or project.